HOW DARE YOU BE HAPPY
One of the reasons the whole Samantha Brick shitstorm interested me wasn’t because some random woman went viral overnight but because it actually had a lesson to learn underneath all of the palava. The learning was that although the interview was written in a way to make her look silly, the majority of readers clearly hated the fact that a woman was openly saying how beautiful she was and that she was really happy with the way she looked.
The reason this interested me was because I think this happens in general life. When someone asks you are how you are, it’s difficult to say ‘I’m really happy” especially when you get a niggly feeling that maybe they aren’t. When chatting to someone, you would hold back from saying ‘ACTUALLY I JUST GOT A MASSIVE COMPLIMENT EARLIER AND I’M FEELING REALLY SEXY’. Who would say that? They’d give you a raised eyebrow and they’d tell the next person who came along that you’re a bit of a douche. Because let’s face it, you would sound like one shouting about how totally amazing you feel. Basically, no one wants to hear it.
Isn’t that sad? That to remain socially accepted you have to hold back moments of joy and ‘GO ME!!’ moments?
I think it’s a real shame that we have to tone down our feelings when we want to celebrate. We get scared of celebrating our achievement, giving ourselves a pat on the back or saying ‘I’m awesome’. We hardly ever share really good news unless someone asks. Well, I think we should sharing positive things more and be happier for other people. Karma is an actual thing in the dictionary, and if you start being happy for others, good things come back to you.
So, let’s stop slapping our wrists before we tell someone that something great has happened. Let’s tell everyone. Hopefully soon people won’t see it as a bad thing.
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