December 15, 2014

About Blogging And Respecting Other People’s Decisions

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It’s hard isn’t it, to watch someone do something that you would do differently.

“Ooh I wouldn’t have done it that way”.

“If it was me, I would have said [insert here] instead.”

“Why do people *do* that?”

That’s the thing isn’t it? We’re all different. We don’t always get other people’s decisions. I have friends that think I’m nuts to choose to live in London. I think they’re nuts for not moving to London. Some people think double denim is a good look. Others think texting a boy who treats them badly is a good idea. We also hardly ever know the full picture, so judging someone’s decisions seems a bit pointless really, doesn’t it? Plus the world would be so completely dull if we all agreed on everything all the time.

A few weeks ago, I took offence at someone’s opinion of bloggers, gently critiquing people who put themselves out there on a daily basis. This person didn’t mean to cause offence, she just thought “oh no, I wouldn’t ever do that” (fair enough).

The main questions she was struggling to get her head around was: Why do people blog so much? Why do people share their story so much? Why do people OVER-SHARE so much?

I get it, it’s annoying for some people. Private people don’t get it. And god, I respect that. Some people cannot think of anything worse than “tweeting what they had for breakfast” or posting photos of their day out, or telling strangers how they feel. The “100 days of happiness” campaign (posting happy stuff in your life for 100 continuous days) probably made their eyes roll out of their heads. However, that’s their choice, that’s their opinion. And it’s OK if they think blogging is lame.

I’m fine with that.

But I quite wanted to point out that people (and yes I’m talking about myself here) don’t necessary choose aspects of their personality – an urge to share is something you have – or you don’t.

For some people it isn’t a choice.

For some people, sharing a little fragment of their life isn’t as attention-seeking or narcissistic as it might seem – it’s actually part of their DNA, a natural urge that makes them want to share their little stories with people in order to function, to make sense of their thoughts. They need the daily connections, as much as they need a drink of water. It’s healthy.

Megan from Wonderful You summed this up nicely last night: “Some people share things on the internet, I’m one of them. It’s not for acceptance or attention – it’s my therapy.” As well Laura from Superlatively Rude said: “That’s why I write. Not to make others feel less alone. I write to feel less alone myself.”

Some people need to tell stories.

But the truth is that only a select few people will want to hear them – and that’s OK too.

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