December 03, 2015

Your perfect image doesn’t inspire me

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Here are some of my OWN PERSONAL reasons to keep it real on social media:

1. If you’re selling something, or working with a brand, MAKE IT CLEAR. No one is stupid. We’re all clever people. We’ve all grown up with social media, or at least all get the hang of it by now. You can’t sell stuff without being upfront – it makes people feel like you don’t respect the people who engage with you. I mean – quite obvious really.

2. If you don’t open up about anything how can anyone actually get to know you?

3. If you don’t show any elements of your real life, your “likes” kind of evaporate into… nothingness.

4. Post what you like. But be aware that posting a LOT of edited and “warmified” bikini beach shots and gym selfies can make some people feel like shit. It just can. (Especially when people are scrolling through their phones in bed with a hangover.) But those reactions are equally out of your control.

5. Your opinion is your opinion. And we are all free to change our minds as much as we like. It’s OK to change your mind even if it jars with an “image” you want to have.

6. Be aware that hardly anyone can afford your designer handbag. Thumbs up though. It’s really nice.

7. If your Instagram feed is turning into a Boden Catalog take a little step back and remind yourself that you are a person! It’s OK to have a hair out of place. Honestly. No one will fire you from the Internet for having a hair of out place. You won’t go down in history as the Girl With The Rogue Strand.

8. No one blames you for “MY OFFICE FOR THE DAY” captions when you’re in a hammock, on a beach, with a really expensive laptop. Like we would ALL do it. But also: you do have to realise that does make you a dick – because you posted it on a Monday. Sometimes you just have to post it because it’s a gorgeous picture, but then you owe it to yourself to whisper out loud: I’m a bit of a dick. 

9. You’re a human-being first, not a brand! Human! Human! Human!

10. If you’re promoting a lifestyle that is niche, expect some people to not like it. Some people love fitness, some people hate fitness. Some people love avocados, some people…. you get the picture. Be confident in what you like and build your tribe. You like what you like!!

11. We live in a world where we have so many different types of role modes. Personally for me, I am not inspired at all by flawlessness. Looking at a flawless picture of someone’s abs does not make me want to grab life by the horns. Other things do. Each to their own.

12. Showing your “weird bits” can lead you to your bestest ever friends.

13. Showing what you care about is brave.

14. Admitting to a bad day is brave.

15. We live in a world where we have so many ways to connect, so why don’t we actually try connecting?

Image from Pinterest.

13 Responses

  1. Beckie says:

    THISSS. I love this post. I feel like I’m left out for not having an expensive laptop, or camera, or lipstick, or bag. But actually, that just makes me (as a student blogger) a lot more realistic! x

  2. Emma says:

    Fab post! Thanks so much for writing stuff like this—it ‘s reassuring being told that we don’t have to be perfect all the time 🙂

  3. Becky says:

    YES! Such wise words!! A very good read and so very true!

  4. Laura says:

    Amen sister! Also when peoples faces are face tuned to an inch of their life hahaha too much !

  5. Ivana says:

    This is so very true. I think sometimes people forget to enjoy there social media and just be how they are. We all have just one life and how cares if something is out of place, just go on with show people don’t always care what you write or if hair isn’t in place. Have fun and enjoy and you’ll be fine.

  6. Jennifer says:

    Bravo sister! The nitty gritty bits are the best bits. I love writing about travel as much as possible, (but then again I have no problem being a dick ?) I just prefer to write and read about real life more.

  7. Flora says:

    Hello Emma 🙂 This is my first time visiting your blog and this is the first post I’ve read: absolutely, 100% agree with you! And I feel like your objective is really well communicated, but better than that, I feel like I’ve got to know YOU in reading this. I know what infuriates YOU! What maddens, enrages, irks, pisses off or bores YOU! Which is really great, because I feel like that’s what you getting at with this post: be genuine, open, honest, HUMAN (yes!) and have a literal AND metaphorical hair out of place, because it’s what makes people form a relationship with you. We’re not going to connect otherwise.

    So, off the back of that, I’m off to follow you on ALL your social networks before I even read another post, because this is honest enough to make me WANT to follow you. 🙂 Wishing you a brilliant Friday!


  8. You are so damn right! Our lives are filled with so many conflicting images these days because of social media. Everyone’s lives looks like something straight from Hollywood when in reality they are just a plain Jane trying to be something they think everyone else wants them to be. BE REAL PEOPLE x


  9. Rab says:

    As the only male to leave a comment here (so far) I just want to say that I also found your blog refreshing and honest! I am a fairly recent arrival with a blog but I always want to write from a position of honesty and acceptance – not interested in trying to pretend my life and I are anything other than just ordinary. It’s so important to just be honest and write about whatever interests you rather than creating a false ‘image’ of yourself. Def no gym selfies on my site!

    Happy to connect with anyone who’s interested!

  10. Dylana says:

    Such wise words! I love this so much!


  11. After reading this I feel I can relax, and get over not having the perfect image.

  12. kshitij says:

    thank you for this

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